When bad things can teach how to live!
After being killed in a car accident, Chris Nielsen (Williams) goes to an afterlife derived from his wife’s paintings. Despite the paradise he now inhabits he is unhappy without his wife Annie (Sciorra). When Annie commits suicide following Chris’ death she is sent to hell. Adamant that they belong together, Chris commences a quest to rescue her, in the process discovering a number of characters from his past.
Many times in our lives, bad things can make us learn too much. Sometimes life is not exactly what we want, but we can change our point of view if we ask:
What I can learn with it?
We can use everything that happens with us as a lesson. Human beings has a quality that psychology calls as: RESILIENCE
This word comes from engineering and means: property of a material to absorb energy when it is deformed elastically and then, upon uploading to have this energy recovered.
People are resilient…
In all mankind history we can see many countries that were destroyed during the wars their reconstructed themselves. England, France, Germany, Japan are good examples of resilience, of course there are some many examples.
Humans can meet their equilibrium point if they have faith in somebody or something. If they have somebody that can remind them how far they can have go, how worth they are, how much they deserve.
There are many opportunities in life, in this uncountable numbers of opportunities in our life we can choose one, even though it is not the best, but it can be the right for us in that moment, we must see as the right one.
So let`s celebrate
Life is made of little things. All these little things together make our life what it is? Great!
The universe is made of little particles and even though it is great! It is infinite!
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Enthusing
Coaches support their clients creating value-based goals. All humans have goals, desires, expectative. The great challenge is align these goals to what are primary goals ou secondary goals.
When we prioritize some of theses goals we can energize them. There is a scale of values in each creature and we can use this to align all goals.
Let us see the Maslow Piramid that we can see in his Theory of Human Motivation….
Superseize me please!
When we are kids, every time we do something new our mother superseize our actions!
She always is grateful and happy because of our progress and our success.
Why we can not have someone like our mothers all our life long? Our family – husband, children and others are always too busy to enthusing us and give us what we really deserve. Positive energy brings positive actions. We need help.
As I said about resilience: all humans can create a great life even though they had suffered a hard pain.
We want more than celebrate a new year, a new car or a new child or love. We need to celebrate life!
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SHIFTING PERSPECTIVE PART II
First of all we must remember that perspective was a mathematical formula to represents the reality as we see, but it only represents. Our mind sees as if it was real, but our thoughts are made of language, of signs, and signs can only represent, not be in place of the object.
In our life we can think deeply about this, we can choose the way to see the things, we can choose the signs we can construct our thoughts, our life, our relationship and all departments of our life.
This game purpose is learn how the client see other points of the view of the same object applying to his/her life.
Of course the picture above is not a real perspective. It is a trap – we can’t take the sun with our hands, of course. The illusion that it keeps is because of the distance the observer is from the objects.
The way I observe an object and the way I represent it on my mind gave me all that know about the world. Remember the epigraph of this article: We read the world wrong and say that it deceives us. How to live without being deceived by the world? The answer is: Shifting perspective.
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SHIFTING PERSPECTIVE PART I
School of Athens
“We read the world wrong and say that it deceives us.” Rabindranath Tagore
As we read the quote above we can think that the great question for us is the way you look at your life. All in life has two sides: good and bad. If you say yes to one other will disappears. It is like when you take a picture: you choose a person, or a flower or a landscape, when you say yes to one object you say no to the rest. The picture represents the memory of a choice we made in a certain time.
This article is to demonstrate how perspective can be a powerful skill in coaching. Here I have choose, or I mean, said yes to some skills will help another coaches.
According to http://www.semioticon.com/seo/P/perspective.html :
“Perspective is a method for producing realistic pictures. It is a mathematical system that indicates how a real-world scene would project to a vantage point. If a picture is to be produced, a picture surface is placed between the real-world scene and the vantage point. Each point of interest in the real-world scene is joined to the vantage point by a straight line. A depicting point is placed on the picture surface where the line intersects it. Perspective pictures look realistic because they recreate the pattern of light of the real-world scene.”
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An observer looking at the painting “The School of Athens” by Raphael (Figure 1) gets an impression similar to that from observing a real scene in Athens. In other words, the painting looks realistic. This realism is provided by perspective. Here, we outline the principles of perspective and show how vision uses perspective pictures.
Figure 1. Raphael’s (1483-1520) The School of Athens (1510-11), Stanza della Segnatura (Vatican).
So, perspective can be defined as a simulation of the real world. We can only simulate the reality. Every time we see the world our eyes and brain create a perception of what we are seeing. It is not the reality, they are signs, and they are representations of the world around us.
Every time I see I activate some filters, this can be my emotions, my beliefs, my culture, my imagination about the fact.
If I am in a place I have never been before I have different sensations in seeing persons, things, foods. If I do not know anything about the culture I can find wrong what they find right and vice-versa.
People has individual differences: own story, class, education, ethnic differences, personality types and gender, we are different as world observers, we are in different points of observation, we have different values and beliefs used as filters to see the world.
In coaching, it is important take this note: we are all human, we need love and be loved, respect and be respected, be successful and help people reach the success but the way we do this is different from person to person.
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Nothing is gonna change your world?
When we are a child we see the world so big.
As we grow up we feel the world being smaller and smaller!
When we are adults, we stay in our confort zone and nobody can takes us away from it.
What dou you think! How many times have you tried to leave you comfort zone? How many times has the life begun again in your life?
Do you wanna a life coach?
Let’s have a trail session.Post a comment and I will find you!
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CHANGING A PARADIGM
What do you want change in your life?
Change your poin of view! And you change the world!
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About perspectives: cognition process
Any experience we pass through life is an infinite time to learn!
Suppose you are reading this chart above in order to learn something.
Every day in our licves we have experiences, some of then we are attempt, another we never will remember. Why?
Before we can think in any thing that happens our mind filters with our values, our beliefs, our culture and so on. Before you learn something your mind will not leave a great part of it enter into your mind and be processed by your brain.
Take a look of the picture again!
Besides, we materialized the way we see the word in the way we speak, the way we talk, the way we select our clothes, the newspaper we read, our friends and so on….
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